The Golden Rule
For Moms To Help Dads Be More
Involved With The Kids
Ladies Give Your
Attitudes A Makeover. Are you still
stuck in 1950’s ideas of parenting?
If so, it’s time for a makeover. In
this day and age, dads are more
involved than ever before. And if
you fail to update your attitude,
you’ll have a partner who will be
less involved with their kids. So,
if you want your partner involved,
start changing your attitude. Just
remember – other than breastfeeding
– dads can do everything that moms
can do too!
By Invitation
Only. So, you like the idea of your
partner being more involved with the
kids so you can have some quality
time with yourself. But are you sure
about that? A lot of women like the
concept, but when it comes down to
it, they’ve clearly staked their
claim on the home front. And if your
partner thinks that home is mom’s
turf, chances are, he’s not going to
want to step on your toes –and he’ll
have you take the lead. So, if you
really want him involved, you’re
going to have to invite him in.
Don’t “Hop On
Pop.” It might be a fun Dr. Seuss
book to read to your kids, but
jumping on dad isn’t a good approach
with your partner. In fact, the
worst thing you can do is jump on
your kids’ dad every time he doesn’t
do the things the way you’d like
them done. Which leads to the next
tip...
Gag The Nag. The
three things women do that are
guaranteed to turn every men OFF
(Big Time) – and turn them away from
their families – is nag, nag, then
nag some more!
No one likes to be
reminded of the things he SHOULD do
that he hasn’t done yet. Your
partner is no exception.
Accessorize Your Feedback. You may
have a lot more experience handling
the kids than your partner. Chances
are, he can benefit from your day to
day experience. But when you’re
giving him feedback, be careful:
criticism is like silk and it’s easy
to slip into. So, instead, remember
to dress up your observations.
You’ll always get more done with
positive feed-back than by saying
something negative.
Give Credit When
Credit’s Due. Admit it; he doesn’t
do everything wrong. Right? So,
what’s wrong with telling him what
he does right? Try to acknowledge
what your partner does well. It’s so
very true that a little word of
encouragement and praise will go a
long way to help build the
confidence that’s necessary for a
dad to be more involved with his
kids.
Make Sure That You Believe In Him.
And speaking of confidence, he needs
your confidence. Dads who have
partners who are confident in their
ability to be good fathers are more
involved with their kids. So, make
sure that you go out of your way to
give him your official mom’s seal of
approval.
Back Off. Okay, so
now you’re all set to have a father
who’s really involved with his kids.
One last thing: you’ve got to get
out of his way. Women who are
reluctant to give up responsibility
to their partners, have fathers who
are less involved with their kids.
So, step back and simply let him
step in. And remember “NOT” to judge
what he does.
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Telling Your Family And Friends
About Us!
The highest
complement you could give our law
firm is the referral of your loved
ones and friends. Over the years our
practice has been built upon the
trust you place in our ability to
take care of those you care the most
about. Our major purpose is to
provide OUTSTANDING legal service to
everyone who comes to us in need. We
would like to thank you in advanced
for all your support, and trust you
place in our firm.
Thank YOU – Franks
& Rechenberg,P.C.
Joke Of The
Month… (Use This One On Your Kids!)
KNOCK KNOCK
WHO'S THERE
CARGOES
CARGOES WHO?
CARGOES BEEP BEEP !
How To Childproof
Your Kitchen
Because parents
spend so much time in the kitchen,
small children will want to be there
with them. To keep your little one
safe, take the following steps.
Step 1 - Store matches, lighters,
sharp utensils and household
cleaners in a cabinet accessible
only to adults.
Step 2 - Put child-safety latches on
all lower-level cabinet.
Step 3 - Unplug appliances when not
in use and keep cords out of reach
of children.
Step 4 - Never pour hot liquid near
a child and never leave hot drinks
within reach.
Step 5 - Use the back burners of the
stove and turn pot handles toward
the back.
Step 6 - Purchase safety features
that secure free-standing ovens to
the wall.
Step 7 - Watch out for tablecloths -
since small children enjoy pulling
on the cloth, glasses and plates can
fall off.
Step 8 - Keep stools and chairs away
from counters and stoves.
Step 9 - Be sure to keep alcohol
locked away from children.
Step 10 - Cook meat, eggs, poultry
and shellfish thoroughly to prevent
food poisoning.
Step 11 - Always wash your hands
with soap after handling meat or
poultry.
Step 12 - Use a child-safety gate,
if possible, in the doorway to keep
children out of the kitchen
completely when you are in another
room.
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can start working on your case right
away!!
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You! Thank You!
Special thanks go
out to all of our clients and
friends who graciously referred our
law firm to their friends and
neighbors last month! Our practice
is built based on positive comments
and referrals from people just like
you. We just couldn’t do it without
you.
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How To Open A Day
Spa…
As more people
lose their jobs, more and more
people are looking for ways to
become self employed and start a
small business. Before you start any
new business make sure you do your
homework first! Opening a day spa is
becoming popular these days with the
increase of certain fields like
cosmetology and massage therapy. The
demand is certainly there as many
people like going to day spas to
reduce the day to day stress. Here
are some quick tips on how to open a
day spa.
Step 1
When you open a day spa you have to
follow very strict guidelines
because state laws are very strict
in terms of cleanliness and proper
certification and licenses of those
who are cosmetologists or work in
any field that requires you to touch
or treat customers physically. Most
day spas are requiring those who are
nail technicians, massage therapists
and hair stylists to be licensed by
the state and have graduated from a
recognized trade program.
Step 2
Opening an actual day spa takes a
lot of time because of the zoning
laws and other things you have to go
through in order to opening a new
business. Make sure you have the
location planned out and inspected
not only by someone private, but by
the city before they issue permits
for construction or any type of
building to take place. This is to
ensure when you apply for insurance
that any flaws or damage won't drive
your premiums up. Many new
businesses often suffer huge
financial set-backs because of
insurance costs.
Step 3
Once you have established a day spa,
you have to stay on top of things.
Credentials must be current and
anyone you hire must have their
stuff current as well because it's a
liability to not have licenses and
certifications up to date and
current on the books.
Know a friend who was arrested
for DUI? Offer them great advice!
Tell them to call David Franks at
(847) 854-7700 NOW! Learn about the
Monitoring Device Drivers Permit (MDDP).
Sports Trivia Questions &
Answers...
What sport used
the term "home run" long before
baseball? Answer: Cricket.
Who was the first
U.S. volleyball player to win three
Olympic gold medals? Answer: Karch
Kiraly.
What was the only
team to win two World Series in the
1980's? Answer: The Los Angeles
Dodgers.
What NFL team is
known as the "ain'ts" when on a
losing streak? Answer: The New
Orleans Saints.
What's an NBA
player deemed to be if he's received
the Maurice Podoloff Trophy? Answer:
The most valuable player.
What Washington
Capitals goalie earned the nicknames
"Ace" and "Net Detective"? Answer:
Jim Carey.
What NBA team
plays home games in the Alamo dome?
Answer: The San Antonio Spurs.
What company's
logo is called the "swoosh"? Answer:
Nike
Tips For Divorced Dads: Problems
& Solutions During The Summer and
other Holidays
DISCLAIMER:
The following is NOT legal advice,
nor is it a substitute for legal
advice. If you are in Family Court
you will need legal advice, so
please see a lawyer. Divorced dads
face many challenges during the
school vacations during the summer
and other holidays with their
children. However, there are
solutions. Let me share some sound
advice with you dads.
Fathers who are
successful with holiday and birthday
visitation issues don't sit around
waiting to take legal action for the
last minute. To ensure the holiday
schedule goes as planned, and
without a hook (especially if
problems are anticipated), you may
need police enforcement of your
access.
In my opinion, "early" for summer
vacation means getting an early
start in May or before. Whatever you
do, don’t put this off till the last
minute. In May and June, the court
system slows down to a near
standstill. Faced with the prospect
of not seeing your children for the
summer, slow paced legal proceedings
make the stress factor even worse.
During this process the best thing
to do in court, is NOT to wage war;
but make peace. Remember, judges
simply don’t care about what is good
for you. Present evidence to the
judge in terms of how your
suggestions will benefit your
children and a GREAT compromise
focused on calming their holiday
anxiety. That's what judges want to
hear.
Most courts order that summer time
with dad, birthdays and Christmas be
equally divided. But put yourself in
your kids' shoes for a moment. It's
not good for the kids to chop a
special day in half.
If you don't get your kids for the
holidays, buy them a present anyway.
Wrap it and put it away. When you
finally see your kids, even if it's
March or June, put on your Santa hat
and pull out the present. Your kids
will appreciate that you didn't
forget them.
Whatever you do, DON’T bad-mouth
their mother! Trust me, kids are
very smart. One day your kids will
figure out what really happened if
you are non-confrontational.
Ultimately, you might have to get
creative. You might have to
celebrate two birthdays and
holidays; one with each parent.
A great idea is celebrating
Christmas by surprising your kids
days early with a full out
celebration. You’ll have a great
time because you won’t be stuck on
celebrating on a certain day.
Whatever you do, DON’T ever give up
and don't ever lose your faith and
hope that things will turn out for
the best. Most judges understand how
sad a time summer holidays can be
without your kids.
If you come across angry, you do
your kids and yourself an enormous
disservice.
Be the man you claim to be by
example: Be a man of peace and
extend goodwill to all. This is the
best overall approach and strategy
successful divorced dads use to
maintain a close relationship with
their children. Remember this above
all else: Your example of love,
peace and fatherly wisdom is the
best present you can give your
children as a legacy of who you
really are.
Look, if you've lost in Family
Court, don't ever give up. There is
always a solution through patience
and hope. You've likely lost because
you didn't understand that winning
requires effectively "waging peace"
for your children.
If you base your new game – plan
strategies upon those of becoming a
successful dad, you’ll improve your
chances of success immeasurably. If
you or someone you know needs some
help before the summer vacation –
please give us a call so we can see
what we can do to help you become
the dad you’re meant to be!
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is asking to take your recorded
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answers from you.
Call today (847) 854-7700.
The Cookin’
Corner…For May 2009
“Dream Coffee Cake Recipe”
Ingredients:
1 (18-ounce)
package yellow cake mix
1 cup vegetable oil
4 eggs
1 cup sour cream
¾ cup sugar
1½ teaspoons ground cinnamon
1¾ cups chopped walnuts
Instructions:
1. Preheat oven to
350F. Grease a 13 x 9-inch baking
pan.
2. Combine cake mix, vegetable oil,
eggs and sour cream in a large bowl.
Beat 2 minutes with a mixer at low
speed, scraping sides of bowl
frequently.
3. Mix sugar, cinnamon and walnuts
in a medium bowl.
4. Spread half the batter in pan.
Sprinkle half the walnut mixture
over top. Repeat with remaining
batter and walnut
mixture.
5. Bake 40 minutes, or until a
wooden toothpick inserted in the
center comes out clean. Serves 20.
Tips from the Test Kitchen:
Tip From Our Test
Kitchen: This coffee cake tastes of
homemade comfort, and it only takes
a few minutes to prepare. That’s why
it’s a dream. It also can be frozen
and served later.
Getting to Know
the Lawyers at Franks & Rechenberg,
P.C.
Kevin Goes to
College!
Kevin, son of
David and Andrea Franks, will
graduate from the Illinois
Mathematics and Science Academy, in
Aurora, in May, where he has been
active in Student Council and
various activities. Several
universities accepted Kevin: the
University of Chicago, Northwestern,
University of Illinois, Washington
University in St. Louis, and Boston
University. Boston University
offered Kevin a half academic
scholarship. Kevin recently returned
from spring break in Alabama, where
he and several of his classmates
helped build a home for Habitat for
Humanity. Kevin is a typical
teenager, staying up late on
weekends, and seldom getting up
before noon. Kevin is making noises
about studying to be a medical
doctor, which is a pretty good idea
considering the rising costs of
health care.....maybe he can offer
his parents health care when they
are old....!
Inspirational
Thoughts For May – Positive Thinking
Every Day!
“You create your
thoughts, your thoughts create your
intentions, your intentions create
your reality.”
- Wayne Dyer
“To accomplish great things, we must
not only act, but also dream; not
only plan, but also believe.”
– Anatole France
“Anyone who stops learning is old,
whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone
who keeps learning stays young. The
greatest thing in life is to keep
your mind young.”
– Henry Ford
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How to Build A Family Emergency
Kit For Your Home
We all know we
should be prepared and most of us
think we are, having some extra
water in the house, or some extra
cans of tuna around. But it’s simply
NOT enough these days. Here are the
basic things you will need to set up
an emergency supply kit which should
get you prepared sufficiently in
case of an emergency.
Step 1 Water: Experts recommend
setting aside one gallon of water
per person per day for drinking and
sanitation. Have enough water on
hand for 4-7 days. You may want to
adjust this number up if you have
children, nursing mothers, or anyone
chronically ill as they may need
more water. In addition, if you live
in a warmer climate, you may want
more water on hand.
Step 2 Food: You will want at least
three to seven days of food on hand.
Collect non-perishable, easy to
prepare food that can be eaten warm
or cold as you may not be able to
cook. Don’t just assume you can eat
what’s left in your cabinets as
what’s usually left are things you
don’t like. An emergency is a
stressful time. Pack food that is
healthy, comforting, and liked.
Canned meats, fruits and veggies are
a great start. Snack bars, granola,
peanut butter and nuts, canned
juices and milk are all great.
Comfort foods like chocolate and
cookies can be a good extra. If you
have a baby or someone with special
dietary needs, don’t forget to pack
for them. Also include cups, plates
and plastic utensils for eating. And
of course pack your manual can
opener!
Step 3 First Aid Kit: Every
household has some sort of first aid
kit. Create one for your emergency
kit and keep this up to date. Go
through your first aid kit monthly
to replace items you have used or
that have expired. The basics you
should have are: A first aid manual,
a few pairs of sterile gloves, gauze
pads, soap and antibiotic spray or
ointment, burn ointment, bandages,
eye wash, an Ace bandage or two,
aspirin or other pain reliever,
anti-diarrhea medicine, laxatives
and scissors. Also include a small
supply of the prescription
medication and medical supplies you
and/or your household members take
everyday along with an extra copy of
the prescription. Make sure to also
include personal hygiene products
such as women’s sanitary napkins or
tampons.
Step 4: For
securing your home, pack plastic
tarps and duct tape, dust masks, a
wrench and a pliers for turning off
utilities. (As a note, some utility
companies recommend pre-setting your
wrench or pliers to the bolt sizes
and hanging them near the utilities
you will need to shut off so there
is no confusion.)
Step 5: You should also have in your
home a fire extinguisher, waterproof
matches, a set of basic tools, and a
whistle to signal for help.
Household chlorine bleach to be used
as a disinfectant if needed (9 parts
water to one part bleach).
Battery-powered radio with extra
batteries, lanterns and flashlights
with extra batteries
Step 6: To keep clean and for use in
personal sanitation, some moist
towel-lets, plastic bags and tires
or rubber bands should be kept on
hand.
Step 7: Clothing and bedding: At the
very least, keep one complete change
of clothing AND sturdy shoes for
every person in the household. A
coat, long pants/jeans, a long
sleeve shirt, hat and gloves are the
absolute basics. Add sleeping bags
or blankets as available.
If you live somewhere colder, add
additional clothing items just to be
safe.
Step 8: Money & Important
Information: Have some cash in small
bills, and ATM or credit cards
available. Banks and electronics may
be unavailable for a few days so
have cash on hand to get you
through.
Have a copy of all important family
documents such as ID’s, insurance
policies, bank account information
stored in a waterproof, portable
container. You can drop a set of
spare keys in the same container.
Step 9: Don’t Forget Your Pets: Make
sure to have their ID’s, records,
medications, leash and carrier, and
sufficient food and water for them
too!
Congratulations
To Our “Client Of The Month!”
Every month, we
choose a very SPECIAL client. It’s
our way of acknowledging our great
clients and saying thanks to those
who support our firm by telling
others about us.
This month’s
Client of the Month is Benjamin
Hurtado. We’re treating Benjamin and
his wife to the movies!
ARRESTED FOR A CRIME? Worried
about what will happen? Need
Answers? Call David Franks at (847)
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15 Tips To Avoid Getting Taken
For A Ride By An Internet Scammer
TIP #1: It just
makes good sense to listen to your
gut. If you have a bad feeling that
something isn't legit, you're
probably right.
TIP #2: Make sure
the company has a phone number and
physical mailing address. Call the
company back. Check with Information
to see if the phone number actually
belongs to that company.
TIP #3: Always ask
for references and check them
carefully. A reputable company will
be pleased to send you additional
information such as real people they
use as testimonials and give you as
many references from satisfied
customers as you want.
TIP #4: Ask
on-line promoters where their
company is incorporated. If you're
suspicious, call that state's
secretary of state and ask if the
company is incorporated with them
and if it has a current annual
report on file.
TIP #5: Check with
the state's Attorney General's
Office to see if the company has
ever received a series of
complaints.
TIP #6: Check with
the National Fraud Information
Center at: www.fraud.org or
1-800-876-7060. NFIC provides lots
of valuable resources about
telephone, mail, and online scams.
TIP #7: Always
make sure that you get a strong
guarantee. Ask the company what will
happen if you want to return the
product or service. This is a great
idea, you might even ask for
references of people who have
returned the product and received
refunds.
TIP #8: Avoid
falling for high pressure sales
tactics. Scammers always want your
money right now. They don't want to
give you time to think about your
decision. If you are pressured to
decide right now, just decide to say
"NO!"
TIP #9: Always pay
by credit card. This will give you
the recourses if you have a problem.
If you pay by credit card and have a
problem, you can call your bank and
do a "charge back." What that means
is that you have the credit card
company "charge back" your purchase
to the vendor and give you a credit.
But do be careful giving out your
credit card number (especially by
e-mail).
TIP #10: Make sure
that you NEVER respond to bulk
e-mails. Be skeptical of offers that
use LOTS OF CAPITAL LETTERS and
punctuation!!! E-mails that shout at
you are often bogus, such as
"Discover how you can make BIG $$$$$
MONEY in NO TIME AT FLAT!
TIP #11: Always
print a hard copy of any on-line
offer that you're considering. Make
sure you keep the e-mail address,
Internet address (URL), and any
other information, as well as the
date and time that you saw the
offer. Save this information in case
you need it later.
A Word Of
Thanks…And A Great BIG Welcome To
Our Family!
We would like to
welcome all our new new clients to
our firm and say“Thank You” for
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Handbook just call our office at
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sure to get one for each car in your
family. It’s a great idea to have
one in every car.
Do you have a
friend who was injured in a car
crash, hurt at a construction site,
or hurt as a result of a defective
product, and they are wondering how
to hire a personal injury attorney,
and what questions to ask? Give that
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Mission Statement
It is the mission
of Franks & Rechenberg, P.C. to
continuously earn our reputation as
a pre-eminent local law firm by
always providing our clients with
responsive, zealous, cost-effective
and highly competent legal service
and representation, in a
professional, courteous and
respectful manner.
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David N. Rechenberg will get you
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